About It's Nice To Be Nice
One of the most profound things I ever heard was a metaphor about an orange.
A man had a tv special and he was talking about a time when he was speaking to a large crowd and he had asked the question:
“What do you get when you squeeze an orange?”
He said a young girl in the audience said:
‘That’s dumb.’
He asked why and she told him because it’s obvious that when you squeeze an orange you get orange juice.
He asked her why you get orange juice and she said: ‘because that’s what’s inside.’
The man told her that she was very smart then he extended the metaphor and asked the audience, which was full of adults, what comes out of them when they get squeezed (put under pressure).
He was very direct in saying that whatever is inside is what comes out. He was clear in saying that just like the orange producing orange juice and never being able to produce apple, pineapple, cherry or any other kind of juice, people are only able to produce what is inside of them.
All of that was profound, but the even more profound thing that the man said was that unlike an orange people can change what’s inside of them. This means that people can create a better ‘person’ within so that even when they are "squeezed" what comes out reflects something better and higher than the pressure that is impacting (squeezing) them.
The man was Dr. Wayne Dyer, and when I heard him say that, I knew I wanted to be better.
I took some steps which included: examining who I was and deciding what parts of the inner me I wanted to improve. Then I began taking steps to be better. I knew that unlike the orange, I had the option to change what was inside.
I also know that anyone who wants to live from the better self can change what’s inside.
It’s Nice To Be Nice is the perfect companion for anyone who is willing to start making positive change.
It’s Nice To Be Nice offers short segments of practical approaches that are achievable and sustainable.
Reading It’s Nice To Be Nice puts you in partnership with a guide on a truly transformational journey toward peace, balance, and harmony, and that's what's "nice" about the book:
The focus is on being "nice" enough to yourself to proactively start making positive and productive changes.
The Story Behind The Story
The Metaphor of the Orange
Life is always teaching lessons and some of the things that were happening in my life led me to initially and unintendedly listen to Dr. Wayne Dyer.
I came across him in one of the most interesting ways. I was in Los Angeles for a major event for one of my books and I was in my hotel flipping through the channels repeatedly and nothing wa
Life is always teaching lessons and some of the things that were happening in my life led me to initially and unintendedly listen to Dr. Wayne Dyer.
I came across him in one of the most interesting ways. I was in Los Angeles for a major event for one of my books and I was in my hotel flipping through the channels repeatedly and nothing was on. I finally gave up and decided to leave him on and something he said eventually grabbed my attention.
Over the years I continued to listen to Dr. Wayne Dyer, a licensed psychologist. I took notes every time he had a special on tv, then I started reading Dr. Dyer's books.
The Connections to What I Knew Already
I was already in a pattern of being my best based on the early foundation my grandparents, my mother, my aunts my great uncle, my uncle, older cousins, and church leaders had laid.
I continued to pick up more insight from the mother of a guy I dated, as well as the father of someone I grew up with, then someone who has been like a big sis
I was already in a pattern of being my best based on the early foundation my grandparents, my mother, my aunts my great uncle, my uncle, older cousins, and church leaders had laid.
I continued to pick up more insight from the mother of a guy I dated, as well as the father of someone I grew up with, then someone who has been like a big sister to me, and the professor I worked for during grad school.
So many different people had imparted life lessons to me that lived in my head and heart, and their words would come back to me in just the right moment when I needed to put them in play.
Eventually, I was in a pattern of listening to various people who were speaking about creating an inner space that was filled with harmony, balance, and positivity. I was taking notes every time I heard something that could help me improve.
Changes For the Better
Changes For the Better
I could tell that I was becoming a better person and one day I thought about the approaches I was using in order to do that. And, based on something else Dr. Dyer said, I contemplated what it would be like if everyone began to make positive changes.
My own relationship and professional life had caused me so much distress but reading the n
I could tell that I was becoming a better person and one day I thought about the approaches I was using in order to do that. And, based on something else Dr. Dyer said, I contemplated what it would be like if everyone began to make positive changes.
My own relationship and professional life had caused me so much distress but reading the notes I had taken and acting on them helped me reshape my thinking and that tremendously helped me.
One day I thought about much I had changed based on the notes I had been taking, and I thought even more about what it would be like if everyone could make positive change. I knew how much more peace and balance and harmony my life had as a result, so I organized my notes and realized that I actually had a book.
I also knew that if I transformed my notes into a book, I would have to provide real steps that I had personally taken so I knew those steps could actually lead to positive and sustainable changes. I knew that I could not write a book that was just idealistic suggestions; it had to be real.
So, I wrote my book based on the most practical and effective ways to approach the issues that get in the way of personal growth and development.
Sometimes people have flipped through my book and said things like “Oh, I already know this.”
My hope is that everyone will read It’s Nice To Be Nice and do more than “know this” but actually do “this.”
I am convinced that if people who know "this" will do "this", and continually refresh themselves, and share my book with others, we all will be surrounded by better people who are continually becoming better people.
It's Nice To Be Nice on its own is meant to help guide people through their transformation. Additionally, I am also available to meet through seminars, classes, workshops, etc. for individuals, groups, and organizations who want to make positive personal change.
Someone who read my book said: "I will never see an orange the same."
I personally know that when people begin the journey to live from the better self, they will never see life the same because as the “self” gets better, life itself gets better.
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